She’s been lead on, kicked around, stepped on, laughed at. She brought out her real self, just to be told she’s not good enough. She knows after all that she’s been through, when enough is enough. When to pick her fights and when to just scream because it’s not right. She’s not taking crap anymore.
In a relationship, your identity should not be in the bargain. The moment you find that you’re making decisions based on your man’s preferences and interests is the moment you need to take a step back. Have some me time. Imagine you’re single and ask yourself if you’d come to the same conclusions on things. If not, try to really figure out what your goals and dreams are without your partner in the picture.
Don’t make him your everything and lose yourself in the process. Guys don’t like being suffocated and depended on for everything so you shouldn’t drop your friends, your hobbies and the things that made you you- it’s these things that made him like you in the first place. Don’t be too moody or nag him too much. If you have a problem, calmly bring it up and then learn to let go. Trust him and the way he feels about you. Don’t tell him you love him every 5 minutes. Girls love being told how a guy feels, they like hearing sweet words and compliments but guys aren’t like this. They want to maintain their masculinity even if they are in love. Save those three special words for special moments.
Do you ever get that feeling where you don’t want to talk to anybody? You don’t want to smile and you don’t want to fake being happy but at the same time you don’t know exactly what’s wrong either, there isn’t a way to explain it to someone who doesn’t already understand. If you could want anything in the world it would be to be alone. People have stopped being comforting and being alone never was. But at least when you’re alone no one constantly asks you what’s wrong and there isn’t anyone who won’t take “I don’t know” for an answer. You feel the way you do just because. You hope the feeling will pass soon and that you will be able to be yourself again, but until then all you can do is wait.